I sent this to a recent friend who had gone to high school with me. She has been very helpful and very accepting of all of what’s been going on for us lately. I very much value her and am grateful for all her support, simple as it may seem.
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Hey, did you ever have anything where people kind of looked down on you, because you weren’t as far along as someone else?
I had an odd experience at a baby shower today
Multiple people kind of seemed to be condescending to me about how I wasn’t ‘very far along’. But they weren’t at all the same to the girl who is literally a week and a half further along
I was just kind of ‘Wtf, people?’
I also felt negativity around my wanting to wait until birth to know if it’s a boy or girl. Again, I was very ‘wtf?’ Because what does it actually matter? I don’t get it…
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I had a positive time as a whole at the shower, and I am glad that I went. But it was also odd at times. The freezing cold house made everything worse for me physically, and I felt almost instantly miserable after arrival, despite having brought a thick and warm jacket. The cold makes me feel like I have something flu-like these days, and increases my discomfort and nausea as a whole. So, I wasn’t feeling so hot at the shower because of that. And then the comments of ‘once you’re further along, it’ll get so much better’ from the person who was never even as bad as I was today – which, by the way, already is a thousand times better than I was just a couple weeks ago… I was literally incapacitated… I did not function… so, my tough time at the shower today was nothing compared to how bad it was for me – and who is claiming I’ll be better once I’m in the second trimester… Oh, you mean the trimester that I started two weeks ago? That one will heal me? Fun fact, folks: Second trimester’s start already made me loads better. It just still sucks this much for me. My pregnancy is different from y’all’s. Nothing wrong with that, by the way. But please don’t condescend to me and ignore what I’ve already told you about my experience, and keep saying I’ll be better when I’m further along and finally in the second trimester.
Ugh.
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Okay, thank you for listening, folks who are entirely uninvolved. Remember that you are already good enough as you are. Progress and improvements can always be made – we can always be better than we are in this moment. But we are already good enough right now, exactly as we are.
Thank you, God, for helping me attend the event today and do a decent job despite feeling so unwell. Help my husband to accept my feelings and experiences and support me through them. Help me to communicate effectively to my husband. Help us tog row more and more together and with you. Keep my husband safe, please. Heal me of this nausea and grow our baby well. Help our family to expand safely and beautifully through this child. Thank you for this opportunity. In your name, I pray. Amen.
Post-a-day 2024
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