Month: September 2024

I may have overstayed at the house of our old neighbor friends today, but it’ll be okay. I had intended just to stop by for a few minutes and then leave. However, when I walked in, they basically handed me the baby and started doing other stuff. His mom had been holding the baby. When I leaned over just to see the kid, she stood right up off the sofa, handed me the baby, and walked off. Maybe ten minutes or so later, she told her son she ‘d be back after a while, and she left the house. I didn’t see her again today.

I didn’t even get to give them the gift I’d brought for them, the whole reason for the visit, for at least half an hour, because I had the baby. When they determined to have him nurse, I got the gifts and presented them – they were well received. And I thought I might then head out. However, the baby finished nursing, and they just gave him right back to me. So, we al hung out and chatted while I chilled with the baby. We had snacks together and just had a nice time. Then I was about to get up to go again, when the baby was truly ready to nurse – he hadn’t been fully ready the first time, and had passed out hard core after almost no time at all – and the husband had to go get something from the store, so he asked if I could stay to help the wife as needed. (She had a c-section just over a week ago, and so can’t pick up their toddler. I was basically a sort of babysitter for the toddler while he was gone.)

Once he left, the wife clearly had some venting she needed to do, se thoughts and emotions she had been holding in that needed release. So, I accepted her tidal wave o’ stuff.

Then, I was getting up to go again, after the husband was back, and they asked if I was staying for dinner. I said that I was not planning to do so, as I did not want to intrude, since I had already been there so long. They very comfortably told me I was absolutely welcome to stay. It was easier than figuring out what food I was supposed to eat at home, so I went ahead and accepted.

Finally, after dinner was over and the husband had walked the dog, I got myself out of there. I had had zero intentions of being there past a few minutes, and so it kind of freaked me out that I’d been there for several hours. I really hoped and still do that they truly didn’t mind and that I was also helpful while there.

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I had a really satisfying appointment today with the midwife. My blood work all looked really good, aside from the one thing we knew was going to be low, the ferric reading. So, I need to go ahead and double the iron supplements I’m taking, though on the other half of the day, since the body can only absorb so much at once. I have to start drinking a magnesium supplement soon, too, in addition to the magnesium lotion I use before bed each night. Mg helps with sleep, but also helps balance what increased Fe intake can kind of make go wonky. But she said Mg is a big deal for the last few months, as are the iron levels. If the latter aren’t at least double what they are now by the time of my next appointment, she said I will have to have a one-time IV to get the necessary iron supplementation. So, all the more reason to sort it out before then(!).

Anyway, utterly exhausted tonight. Had lunch with my mom after the appointment, and it was a very nice time together, though I struggled with the food and don’t manage much beyond grains. Then I had my high school reunion – it’s an annual thing for all alumnae, with just special focus on the reunions that are multiples of five that year. People from my class actually showed up this year, and it was really fun just getting to hang and chat with them. They were mostly people with whom I hadn’t really been friends, but whom I, of course, had known. Yet it was still great. It helped with the sense of loneliness in life lately. AND my husband actually came with me, and it was so wonderful to have him there. He ended up hanging out on a sofa in a corner when we were doing a class photo, and then I basically didn’t see him again until he left close to an hour later. But it meant so much to me that he was there and was supporting me. I felt safe, somehow, because of it. Not that school feels unsafe. Just that I felt the experience distinctly of safety with his being there with me. I ended up staying another hour and a half after he left. It was a really good time for me, just being with people, and also connecting with some on a personal level. It was really nice.

Thank you, God, for this day. Thank you for the Mass and the reunion and lunch and the appointment and the safe travels and the weather. Thank you. Help me to sleep well, please. Make me and the baby well. Keep my husband safe, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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I shared with a sort of friend/long-time acquaintance/recent-ish mentor yesterday about how I did a short practice session on my coding program, how I actually remembered most of the stuff, and how relieved I was that my brain still could do it, given all the nonsense lately. And then, to have that all make sense, I shared with him some photos and the fact that we’re expecting a baby in January. He was absolutely delighted for us. He and I had met up just after the first one had ended, and so he knew about that. We hadn’t really been in touch much since that time. Mostly because I had been so sick once I was pregnant again, I wasn’t really in touch with anybody.

Anyway, he started going in about this app and now immensely helpful it was for them and how he can’t recommend it enough. He said he had been very involved in raising his first child, but didn’t have the app until his second child. For that, it made a huge world of a difference for him and his wife, apparently. It’s one that warns about and explains about the brain development that is happening within the baby, and helps give clarity to sudden periods of fussiness, clinginess, and lack of sleeping for the baby – no, not for adults… we’re still on our own there! It lists the brain milestones and what specifically is changing for the baby at the time, and it even has a sort of alert to inform you of an upcoming change in the baby’s behavior and all. He said the app had everything make sense for them, and it made everything easier to handle with the baby, just knowing what on earth was going on. Versus that the baby was just suddenly being unable to operate normally as it had days beforehand.

So, anyway, the app is for a 24-month period. It wasn’t clear if it then re-charged for another period after that, or if it is a one-time purchase (because there are monthly and yearly options, too). So, he straight up Zelled us the money for purchasing the two-year thing twice. He said he really wanted to gift it to us, because the app is just that good and helpful, and he wanted us to be sure to have it. He also said to let him know if it ends up costing more than he gave us, because he is also very considerate and knows the finances are very hard for us right now, and also that he is the reason for the expense in the first place. Super respectful and sweet, of course. I am, naturally, grateful. Both for the likely very helpful recommendation and for the access to said recommendation. Thank you, T.

And thank you, God, for that small and significant blessing, especially amidst all the struggle lately. Help us continue to experience your love and care toward us, please. Make clear out next step in your south for us, please. And help us to love one another well and truly. Help us to honor one another. Make me and the baby well. Keep my husband safe, please. Take care of my family and their safety and well-being, please. Lead all souls to you in this life and afterward, especially those in leadership positions. Help us to sleep well each night. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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I spent most of today feeling rather dreadful. The nausea, the explosive diarrhea, the physical discomfort of that and organs being pushed… all added up for a very tough day for me today. I did get some things done when I got home this evening, and I’m quite grateful for all of that. But the feeling good enough to do things was a short stint, and then I fell back into nausea and slight misery.

So, I go to sleep now, having made important progress, but feeling terrible. And also feeling like I’m still so far behind on it all.

God, help me to see clearly your next step for me and to take it comfortably and confidently. Keep me and the baby and my husband and my family safe, please. Make us well and whole. Help us to sleep well each night, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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I think that’s what they’re called, but I’m actually not sure. Whatever the case, I went to one tonight with my husband. I had thought it was an event for the community, like a happy hour-esque event for everyone just to mingle for a bit. It surprised me that my husband was so stressed about arriving only minutes after the start time, until we walked inside. Suddenly, the very few cars in the parking lot made sense. It was not a mingling event. It was a meeting. Haha

Oops. Somehow misunderstood that flyer. No wonder my husband was surprised I was going with him. Haha

Anyway, I actually liked going. Sort of, anyway. The German in me always sees immediately the room for improvement on anything I cross. However, it was neat to see the different stuff they manage and how (or how not). It was also cool to be able to provide input on things here and there. And also to hear that other neighbors, whom we don’t know, have similar experiences and feelings about things in the neighborhood.

So, it was cool to have gone.

And, naturally, I got myself volunteered for something. They had mentioned several things where I was interested in our participating or helping run the event or whatever. But my husband basically declined everything with a bit of ferocity, so I did not offer us up for any of them. However, on the final point, when they mentioned that the newsletter is only in English and they are considering putting it into “translation software”, which means Google Translate, of course, I was not willing to allow it. My husband agreed that it was fair to offer my help ‘as I am able’. So, I was clear that I wasn’t committing to doing the whole newsletter every month – it’s apparently a four-page thing, according to my husband – but that I would do what I could to make it turn into Spanish as often as possible. I also said it wouldn’t be perfect, but that it would communicate. Everyone seemed happy and excited about that, which was cool. And it was fun for me to be stepping out of my comfort zone with reasonably low stakes, but also a chance to grow and improve myself and my skills tremendously in the process. So, that sort was very cool.

We even ended up talking with this one guy afterward. He just started talking to me in Spanish afterward – also, he was clearly on the board or something, but I don’t know his position – and so I replied, and we and some others had an oddly mixed conversation of Spanish for the two of us and my husband and English when talking with everyone else. It was silly, but cool, too. He’s originally from El Salvador, so he speaks Spanish natively. However, he said he truly cannot write Spanish. He said his daughter can, but that he cannot, otherwise he would have volunteered for the newsletter. I told him that I could write it, and he could read it and let me know what I needed to fix. He laughed, but seemed to find it actually a very reasonable proposition.

It was a fun ending to the meeting.

And then we had to rush home to sell one of the high chairs to a guy from Marketplace. It was a successful transfer, and I hadn’t dropped the price on the chair again yet, so it was for $5 more than I had thought. Even better – yippee(!). Haha

So, anyway, good evening.

Thank you, God, for this evening. Thank you for my husband and my mother. Keep us and the baby all safe, please. Make me and the baby well. Help us all to sleep well at night and to rise early each morning, ready to go. Help us always to see clearly our next step in pursuing and fulfilling your will. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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While presents are cool, surprise presents are kind of the absolute best! my husband messaged me this evening to tell me that there was something for me on the bench at home. He said not to worry if I didn’t like it. I was very interested as to what this little surprise might be. It truly could have gone either direction, based on what he had said.

By the time I got home, I had actually forgotten about it. Remember, my brain doesn’t quite work normally these days. But, of course, when I did get home, I was distracted by something to the side… on the bench…. and I remembered!

And I was beyond excited! He had gotten me a sweatshirt that is black with skeleton bones meant to be of the person wearing the sweatshirt, who is very clearly a pregnant woman, because there’s a baby skeleton hanging out across the bottom of the sweatshirt! It’s an adorable version of a Halloween sweatshirt for when pregnant. I’m a huge fan.

He got home only minutes later, and I got to try it on and take a photo. It lines up really well on my actual body and where the baby is actually sitting, and it was just super fun and exciting for me.

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Alright, so, it is starting to seem like my job is trying to replace me. Not good, of course, but, after sharing with my dad about how everything has been going, I notice that I actually feel a sense of relief. Not that I want to lose a job, especially one that I’m actually very good at doing and whose actual work I like doing. But the admin and all of their struggle nonsense has been really getting to me and has contributed significantly to the depression I’ve already been having with the pregnancy and its physical limitations. So, yes, I would have to find other work, and yes it would have to be very quick. However, just the thought of being done with the disaster that is this admin has created a sense of ease within me. I think, too, that part of the relief is that I would have outlasted them. I have wished I could quit, but been intentional about keeping the financial benefits of the job, as well as enjoying teaching the kids and wanting to do a good job by them. I’ve been sticking it out through the total trash for those two reasons. If the admin decide to replace me, then I will have outlasted their BS. And that’s a big deal to me. Especially to have done so while so utterly miserable and pregnant.

Not saying that any of this actually will happen. But I notice that I feel okay, in a way, if it does happen. I’ll find something all the better instead, and we’ll work things out. We can do this, and I know God is with us and rooting for us. He wants us to be our best selves. This job might not be part of that after a certain point. Whatever the case, I trust Him. And I will do my best, period. As I have been doing. My best is very different these days, which has been a major adjustment for me. But there’s literally a whole load of work going on below the surface these days, and my work on the outside necessarily is different than in the past. And that’s how it is meant to be.

Thank you, God, for this opportunity. Please, make clear for me my next step in pursuing and fulfilling your will. Help me to be the best person I can be, the person you call me to be. Make me and the baby safe and well, please. Keep my husband safe, please. And help us always to sleep well each night. Also, please, grant me the right words in the difficult situations, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Note: I meant what I said there with “the right words”. Sometimes, the right words are not the sweet ones or the accepting ones or the ones that allow an injustice to continue unacknowledged, as I have discovered so far in this current job. Just because something is legal doesn’t make it just – these are words I have said this year. I would not be surprised if they got me into trouble, true as they were and appropriately placed and relevant as they were. I didn’t say them to cause trouble, but to communicate clearly as I felt called to communicate. So, yeah… trusting God’s words and guidance here these days, especially. May He give me the right words for following His path for me. 😛

I don’t want to live into a terrible future. Therefore, I am working on studying present to now. The furthest I am going is sleeping well and my husband getting into bed with me later tonight. I am focusing on releasing what I need to release and am allowing peace to be with me as I finish getting ready for bed and going to bed tonight.

God, thank you for this distinction. Help me to trust you fully. Keep us all safe, please. Keep my husband and the baby safe, please. Help us to see clearly our next set on your path in our lives. And help us to sleep well at night, please. Keep my family well and safe, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

P.S. Happy Fall!!

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Sometimes, people have smart, reasoned, researched things to say. And, sometimes, they have angry, defensive, mostly false things to say.

The latter is incredibly unfortunate, and is, sadly, rampant lately.

God, help us to follow you, please. Make me and the baby safe and well. Keep my husband safe, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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I can hardly wait to wake up tomorrow leisurely, to no alarm. I am quite stressed from this week, and I very much need some rest. Hopefully, this weekend can give me enough rest to recover and to be prepared for next week. There is much then that I am not willing even to consider yet.

God, help me to be who you call me to be. Help me to be my best self. And please make it clear what my every next step is. Help me to pursue and fulfill your will in my life. Help me to release this fury, and free me from this anxiety and utter sense of being hated and undervalued. Help us be financially stable and well, please. Keep my husband safe, please. And make me and the baby well and safe, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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