Sometimes, I wonder if people are aware of their hypocrisy, even to a tiny degree, or if they are utterly blind to it.
One of my best friends always used to say how one of her biggest pet peeves was when people took out trash without replacing the bag. Yet she did just that more than half the time. I halfway felt like I lived at her apartment just from the number of times I put a new bag in the trash can after she had taken out the trash (and not immediately beforehand, but hours, at least). I always wondered at this. Perhaps she does hate it and knows that she does it, and so also hates it when she does it. It’s definitely something that drives me nuts, too, but I make extra effort not to do it. Whenever I do get distracted and don’t replace the bag immediately, I am annoyed at myself for causing the later-on hassle for myself.
More recently, when walking with the neighbor who also just had a baby, she mentioned to me how much she hates when other moms tell her, “Just wait ’til ____,” with the blank’s being some difficult or annoying aspect of motherhood or pregnancy that is supposedly worse than her current situation. When she said this to me, of course, my immediate thoughts were, Yes, just like you did to me all throughout pregnancy? I hate that, too. Naturally, I didn’t say this. But it really had me wonder if she has any idea whatsoever that she did exactly that to me against me again throughout our pregnancies (she was roughly three weeks further along than I was). Ironically, I think I got zero of the symptoms she had mentioned to me in that context. We had very different pregnancies. Which can be clearly seen in the fact that she misses being pregnant, even while acknowledging that ‘there were not-great parts’. I was grateful for my pregnancy, but the positives kind of ended there for me. I was very sick almost the entire time, and actually incapacitated for two months, then barely functional for three months. It was not an easy or enjoyable time for me, and I do not long for that time back the way she does. I long for being able to take care of my physical health and well-being. That’s what I miss these days. Not being pregnant.
Anyway… tangent there… the whole point was that I find myself wondering whether they realize they’re complaining about something that they do all the time. I have things like that for myself, things I dislike yet know that I do. But I’m working on improving and ending my time of doing those things. Is that normal, though? I suppose the typical idea of hypocrisy is that someone would be unaware of his own hypocrisy… otherwise, perhaps it wouldn’t be hypocrisy in the first place…
Yeah… okay, goodnight.
Post-a-day 2025
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