Two things

1. Hypocrisy sucks. I aim not to do it and, especially, to notice immediately if I do do it, so that I may cut it out immediately.
2. I asked my mom probably around a year ago or more not to mention a certain topic to me anymore. She stopped for a while, but has been bringing it up again recently. It frustrates me when she does, not simply because I asked her not to do it, but because of how, when she complains about the behavior now, it is much worse than when she complained about it in the past. I have put a lot of work into the situation in question, and I have made much progress. My husband doesn’t seem to have changed much at all, but I have made a lot of intentional progress on my end. My mother has never mentioned that it has been better in the past year, though I know it has gotten much better. So, when she brings it up to complain about it and to tell me what I need to do, it is immensely frustrating. I am doing a lot about it, and it is way better than it used to be. Yet she brings it up like nothing has altered from how it was a year ago. I kind of freaked out on her today – yes, I did explain all of this to her today – and told her that she should talk to my husband if she wants to talk to someone about it, but not to mention it to me anymore, because it does not help me with the situation and only makes it worse for me. If her comments helped, I’d be all for it. But they don’t help. And I also don’t think her advice is sound in this situation. Her guidance didn’t help the first several months, and it is unlikely to help now. I guarantee that she also doesn’t follow it in the same situation herself – she just doesn’t notice it because she isn’t often in the same situation. But I do notice it. And, like I said with number one already, hypocrisy sucks.

God, help me to communicate clearly and with love. Help the people I love to feel my love for them in my actions and in my words always. Keep us safe and well and together, please, especially my husband and daughter. In your name, I pray. Amen.

Post-a-day 2025