Checklists

Today, a neighbor mentioned doing one thing at a time, and that that was what I am doing at home as I sort through everything and prepare for living with a baby.

I thought about it and then replied something like, ‘More like fifty things at once,’ and I meant it. I truly have a boatload of things going on at once in the house. Many things are ‘in process’ at present. I don’t often have one thing being accomplished from start to finish in one go. It takes starting several things just to be able to finish the first. Sure, sometimes, I just get distracted and start doing something other than what I had intended. But I mostly operate well by doing one step at a time across several things, making progress across the board. I stagger them, of course, so I am still accomplishing the completion of one or another every few steps of the way. I tend to treat them as a lot. Once the lot is completed, I can put together and start a new lot. But everything in one lot is worked on at the same time, to different degrees.

So, yeah, fifty things at once, it often feels and seems. But then they all kind of get done in quick succession, once the first one is finished. Today’s bits were very much like that. Haha But I accomplished loads, and I feel good about it.

Tomorrow will be another set of tasks all tied together across several bigger tasks. I am excited for it(!).

God, guide us always, please. Make me and the baby well and safe, please, and keep my husband safe and well. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Freedom

I was actually happy this morning. Truly so. I even said, “Good morning,” to someone. And I meant it. I haven’t said that phrase in months, because I haven’t been able to mean it. It was bizarre, feeling suddenly myself again. I hadn’t fully realized how missing I had gone.

I am grateful to be back.

Thank you, God, for having this morning go well and for giving me the words and the ease to do everything well and efficiently. Thank you for the business appropriateness of the big boss and her graciousness and kind offer. And thank you for showing me that I was, indeed, doing the best thing. Thank you for the courage and confidence. Thank you for helping me to bring myself back to life. Thank you for your love and guidance and blessings. Make me and the baby well and safe, please, and keep my husband safe. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Getting nervous

I only have to go in in order to resign tomorrow, and yet I am still stressed about having to go to work.

Note** Also, interestingly, I noticed a while back that I have mostly called this place “work”. I almost never have done that with a school in the past. I have always referred to it as “school”, and have even not known what some has meant when I’ve been asked something about “work”… because I never really related to it all as work. I did work, yes, at school. But I loved teaching. It was hard at times, and took up a lot of my life and energy. But I truly liked it. It wasn’t work for me, exactly. But this year has very much been a different relationship for me. It has been work, and it has been dreadful. Most corporate job people can’t even understand my dismay and surprise, because they have always related to their jobs as work that pays the bills. My job has always been something I love that pays, at least, most of the bills. Outside jobs have been to pay the bills, but I also mostly have enjoyed the work involved with those, too. So, anyway, it’s been “work” this year for me, without even having consciously determined that. It just has come out so in every conversation and thought. “Work”.

Back to the main topic: I am getting nervous. It could go easily and well and it could go terribly and it could go anywhere in between. I think I just need to clear myself before arriving at the school in the morning, and spend my two minutes in a power pose (for literal confidence, given chemically by body positioning). Then I can go in and do what I need to do.

As much as I hope the head asks me to stay and work, so that I can have more pay, I see now that I truly don’t want to do it. I shall pray and allow God to guide it all. I trust Him.

God, help me to trust you tomorrow especially. Guide me to speak your words and have your actions tomorrow, that I be the person you call me to be, the best person I can be. Help me to communicate what needs to be communicated, and nothing else. Grant me your will lived out, please. And, if it be your will, please, help me to act with comfort, ease, and full confidence. Make me and the baby well, please, and keep my husband safe. Grant us your grace these next months especially, please. Help us to sleep well each night. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Sunday is God’s day

Perhaps it is simply the way of the world that we find peace on Sundays. Though we put it at the beginning of the week on the calendar, it is truly a completion of the previous week. It prepares us for what is to come, after having completed for us what has already passed. Today was very much so that for me and my life. And I am grateful for it. I truly believe I have seen the path God is offering to me with love and intention. I have taken steps today toward fulfilling that path. Great steps. And it has left me feeling much improved and released from the torture of the past week and recent days. Also, my brother helped us move this dreadful pile of very heavy bricks – I think they are about 15 pounds a piece, possibly 17.2… but it was over a year ago that I weighed one, so I do not truly recall anymore how much each weighs – and put them and their broken parts into two very orderly and clean-lined stacks in a part of the yard that actually makes sense for them. My brain is much relieved just from that today, and I am excited st the progress it has offered both for the yard and for our fence’s being built. My husband said they’d need to be moved before he could start the fence, so I asked my brother if he could come help me move them all. My husband ended up helping us loads, too, and it was a team project this morning for a couple hours of real labor. I am, indeed, excited for this progress today.

Also(!!!), I randomly came across a baby cage fencing thing – that’s what I call them, anyway – on Facebook Marketplace this afternoon. It had just been posted and was one I had never considered. I had only seen one before and even recommended something similar to what I had seen. Both were white and plastic, but clearly very useful for some peace of mind for a solo parent in the room for a bit with a baby who moves around already. This was was wooden. It was also almost double the length of the recommended one. New, it was the same price. But this used, like new one was for less than 60% of the new price. So, I asked the lady about how she liked it and how the wood compared to the plastic ones. We had a great little exchange, and I went to check it out in person this evening, after they’d returned from Church.

It ended up being an awesome time with their little family, figuring out how long the thing actually was and making sure I understood how to set it up (which was rather easy, but was helpful to know for sure how it all worked and to know all parts were present). The mom is a former police officer. She commented positively on my carrying a knife and being aware of safety in life. Then, as she put the cage thing into the car, she asked me if my husband was a pilot. I’d thought she’d seen the license plate, but my husband’s pilot shirt was hanging in the backseat. Turns out that her husband is a pilot for United Airlines right now, and he apparently loves to talk about all of it, so would love to connect with my husband.

It got super adorable when the almost-three-year-old girl had come next to the car, seen inside as her mom finished putting in the caging – I know, it’s a terrible term, but it’s al that’s come to mind right now – and pointed and said, “Daddy’s shirt!” A-dor-a-ble! We both laughed in great humor, and then talked at least another ten minutes about that and other parts of pregnancy and trusting God and Church and probably something else, too. I asked if we could actually connect, and she agreed, saying she was about to ask the same thing and offer her number. We chatted a bit more, and then I cut us off and said I’d let her get back inside to her family, who were adorably playing – we could just see them through the glass of the front door – and just that I needed to pay her first. She genuinely and adamantly told me, “Just take it.” She wouldn’t take any money. I cried, of course, and thanked her. We hugged. It was awesome. I went home delighted.

We might actually have found some people who could become our friends. Good people. And people who have common ground and experience, while also having been on every different paths in life thus far. Some of the best relationships can be that way. I hope it is God’s will that we all connect and stay connected.

Thank you, God, for the support and guidance and grace today. Please, have my husband or hers reach out to one another and connect well. Help us to be the people you call us to be. Make clear your will for us at each step, and help us to step confidently and at ease forward into whatever each next step is for us. Make me and the baby well, please, and keep my husband safe. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Baby

Golly, this baby moves around a lot. In a way, it’s relieving to be able to feel all the physical movements, to have the bumping-bumping every time I stop moving for a couple minutes or more. Before, I just felt a sort of wishy-washy gurgling, like digestion but in the wrong place. And it made me all the more nauseous every time I tried to rest or relax. Now, we have confirmation that the extra nausea was coming from the little baby growing inside of me, and wasn’t just random waves of nausea. It really was real that going to bed and lying down made me feel more sick than I already felt.

It is still weird to feel the bumping so much, so often. But, I guess, it’s like the earthquakes in Japan. Once I adjusted to the Earth rumbling every week, reminding us that it is both there and a living piece of God’s creation, ever changing, it felt normal and right for the Earth to move and for me to feel it. We had a sort of relationship that brought us closer than ever before. It took a long time to adjust to a world that didn’t talk to me, so to speak, that didn’t remind me all the time that it was here, once I moved back to Texas. The baby’s movements remind me a lot of those earthquakes. As odd as they may have felt at the start and even still feel, they are becoming normal and are building a conscious closeness in the relationship between me and the baby. The more time we spend together with the baby bumping its way into my day and my conscience, the stronger the relationship feels. And I have a fondness now for the bumps. They still make me nauseous, which I don’t love at all. But I am growing accustomed to them, to this almost conversation we seem to be having, the baby and I.

Anyway, naturally, it has been bumping away as I write this, so I can’t much stand to look at a screen any longer right now. Goodnight.

God, make us well and safe, please. Keep my husband safe and well, please. Guide me always to be the person you call me to be, the best person I can be. Help me to do your will with ease and confidence and comfort, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Fillings

I hate dental work. Totally enjoy the cleanings. But hate the other stuff. As I was concerned, I ended up with three spots in my teeth that were concerning enough to warrant fillings. The ones on my teeth are only ever between teeth where they touch one another, because I do a great job taking care of my teeth, but got some bad genes. Frankly, my oral hygiene is probably among the best in the world. So, I shouldn’t have cavities, and yet there they are…

Anyway, I got the three fillings. One seems mostly fine, another okay, and the third is driving me nuts. Flossing hurts and feels like it is catching a shelf. The floss shreds partly every time I try that spot. And my aligners still haven’t gotten back to fitting on my teeth fully up top, which is where the fillings all happened. What’s more, they all are the wrong texture. They aren’t tooth texture like my teeth and my other fillings. So, my tongue rubs them all day long, driving me nuts, making it feel like junk is stuck to my teeth, but I can’t get it off.

So, even after making them adjust them a bunch the other day for shaping, I’ll have to go back and get them to do even more. Which is the most frustrating part, I think. They’ve messed with my mouth. Things don’t align or feel the same or correct anymore. And yet they always seem to end up frustrated when I want them to get it back to the right size and shape and smoothness. Sure, they’re happy to help initially. But my fillings are always harder ones to manage, and the matching color makes it pretty much impossible for them to see anything off about them. And only my tongue can truly say what’s wrong and where. But it doesn’t point very well. Or pinpoint at all. So, I usually get flustered and feel like the problem child because I can feel the massive differences and I know things are still off. If I were allowed to fix it myself, I probably could. But having to explain it to someone else for that resin to do it is always a hassle. And that someone else always gets annoyed before the end. Like the other day. I knew they weren’t right yet, but I could tell they were better enough for me to stand them for a few days or so. The dentist and assistant were clearly a bit frustrated – which, frankly, I don’t understand… do they not learn in dental school that work fillings just will take lots of editing in the end? Is this a new concept for them, a filling not being perfect right off the bat?

Anyway…

God, help my teeth to be comfortable and beautiful and functional for me, please. Help me to see clearly your will in my life and to do it with grace and ease and confidence. Keep my husband safe, please. Make me and the baby well. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Okay, but worse

Had a meeting to start the day today. It didn’t go well for the start. I actually got practical info for the second part of it, which was helpful. However, I still think they’re trying to fire me. The person got nasty with me a few times, which was not cool. I mostly kept my cool very well and spoke clearly and precisely almost the whole time. “Keep it in black and white,” I was coached beforehand and again afterward. People tend to avoid that, but it truly is the necessary place for workability and integrity. ‘You say this about me. Please, define what makes me so. What specific aspects of my actions determined that analysis?’ We went through several versions of this question on different topics, and the person almost never would give an answer. Lots of evasion.

It was very frustrating how much this person doesn’t care about supporting me at all, though kept claiming a desire to do just that. Hypocrisy can be tough to be around, and it’s even harder to be in the receiving end of a lot of negativity that is directly tied to the hypocrisy.

Anyway, moving onto the next day.

God, thank you for the confidence and ease within myself today. Please, continue to guide me clearly. Help me to see with confidence and comfort my next step in fulfilling your will in my life. Keep my husband safe, please. Make me and the baby well, truly well. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Improving

My mom said I sounded way better on the phone tonight. I told her how I had felt completely different today then I have felt in a while – I felt like myself today. It made a huge difference. It also helped me find clarity on everything, which was tremendous. I feel loads better. I am loads better.

God, help me to continue to see clearly how next to proceed in pursuing and fulfilling your will. Keep my husband safe, please, and make me and the baby well. Thank you for your constant presence and your guidance. Grant me the words to fulfill your will, especially this week. Help me remember that you are with me, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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