Heart rates

So, my heart rate – this is not true resting, but my average hesitate at any given point in the day – is about 60 beats per minute. Yes, it goes higher, and it is even lower when I am sitting around or lying down. For example, I just put in my retainers, used the bathroom, and put on oil and lotion before stretching and lying down in my bed. My current heart rate is 51 beats per minute.

Every time I have a prenatal appointment, the midwife tells me happily that she loves my blood pressure and heart rate. The first time she checked my heart rate, she sat there the full minute just to see for sure. I still remember her saying, “Nope. Not even sixty!” somewhat baffled and slightly chuckling. She was amazed, in a way. The highest mine has been in a normal appointment with her was, I believe, 64bpm.

However, the other day, we were moving me all around to check out some things, and I had been up and down and turning and talking, and all in a very short timeframe. So, she said she wanted to wait a couple minutes to check my vitals, so things could settle after such high level movements and efforts (getting up and down and moving around a bunch at 39 weeks pregnant is not easily done, to be sure).

But, as I sat on the sofa to ‘rest’, I ended up talking about something that had me very excited. I was quite animated and moving my arms around and even getting myself a bit out of breath in my excitement. (Naturally, I have no idea at this point what I was discussing, but I remember noticing afterward how excited I had gotten in talking about it.)

When she came over to the sofa to check my blood pressure and heart rate, I suddenly remembered that I was supposed to be calming down, not riling myself up. So, as she starting pumping up the cuff, I quickly turned inward, closed my eyes, dropped my head to focus, and relaxed intentionally into slow, deep breaths.

Not long after doing this, I felt the midwife turn when head to look up at me, and so I opened my eyes and turned to look at her. ‘Well, according to this, you died for a second there!’ We both laughed, and I asked what she meant. She said that everything had just come to a halt, jumping from high and fast to low and slow. I told her what I had done, and she said it made sense, but was clearly still impressed.

Turns out, in a matter of seconds, my heart rate had gone from 74bpm to 47bpm. No wonder it sounded like I had died for a second there – that is an absurd drop in the first place, let alone to have happen in mere seconds.

Guess all my training in athletics and yoga and meditation kicked in very effectively there. Not only did I grow up with all sorts of sports and learning to manage and control my breath for optimum use and physical output, but I am a certified yoga instructor, and I have a certificate that basically says I spent 200 hours working intentionally on my breath (that’s pretty much half the point of the specific teacher training I did, after all). Haha

All that to say that it was really cool to see how being intentional with my focus and breathing could affect my body so clearly and directly and efficiently. And to have actual data to qualify the effort – that’s what was really cool about it all. It was awesome.

Okay, now I go to sleep. Goodnight.

Dear Lord, please, let this due date mean something for our baby’s birth – have it be born on this due date, please. Make us ready in any ways we have yet to be ready, and make the baby ready in any ways it has yet to be ready. Prepare us all fully, please, and guide us forward into this beautiful family you have offered to us. Make me and the baby and my husband well and safe and whole, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Cleared

Okay, I have cleared. I am ready for this labor and delivery and baby. I can feel the physical difference of the weight having been lifted off my entire body, especially my shoulders and my belly. This is cool stuff.

Thank you, God, for these blessings. Help us to have this beautiful and love-filled experience. Be with us and guide us always, please. Make me and the baby and my husband well and whole, please, and keep us safe and together and with you. Thank you for our home and for this blessing. In your name, I pray. Amen.

P.S. My husband’s afternoon flight got cancelled, which was frustrating for his testing, but which blessed us with the opportunity to go have an awesome anniversary lunch together at a restaurant we both very much enjoy. It was wonderful to be together in that way and to enjoy such wonderful and filling food together. Such a great date. I’m so grateful to have my husband as my husband. Thank you, Lord, for bringing us together. Amen.

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(Nope…)

Crap day

I’m tired of being alone so much of the time. I borderline hate my daily life at this point. For the most part, I feel miserable and alone, plus physically horrible and utterly incapable. Loads of pressure from others to do whatever it is their way, and like I’m not allowed to have my own opinion about things.

A main part of my sense of loneliness lately has been the baby’s movements. Whenever I go to bed, the baby shifts around and stretches out like crazy. It stretches during the day, too, which is all the same experience for me. At night, though, it is quite overwhelming. And there’s no one to experience it with me. I just get to lie here is semi-misery and semi-awe, all by myself, feeling like I’m crazy for the movements being a big deal. But no one is here even to witness them with me, and so I get to suffer it all alone and try desperately to fall asleep, also alone. On the rare nights that my husband goes to bed when I do, it is a massive comfort for me, both through his physical presence and touch and through his, with his hand on my belly, also feeling how wild and awesome the movements of this baby are. We get to experience them together. No, they don’t make him feel sick and like he might hurl and wants to cry. But he still experiences them with me, and that helps me find humor in them and actually enjoy them, despite the discomfort of them.

The high point of my day lately has been when I chat with my dad over the phone and we commiserate about how miserable we both are, my for my pregnancy and loneliness and his for his recent knee surgery and the horrible recovery it has been so far for him. Neither of us likes having to be stagnant, and we have both very much so had to be recently. It has been really tough on us both.

Separately, we had a schedule change today due to another personal issue for an instructor at my husband’s school, so he didn’t get to do his testing today – this is the last part of required testing before he can start working, roughly week 17 or 18 in a course that is supposed to take 4-5 weeks, according to the school… who keeps screwing him over on scheduling again and again… like today. So, instead of spending time together on our first anniversary, he will be up at the airport all day tomorrow, and then in a training in the evening. I imagine that, by the time he gets home, I’ll already be in bed. If I’m taking care of myself like I should, that is.

I had thought he might adjust things ever so slightly to spend some time with me this evening, since he’ll be gone all day and night tomorrow. However, I didn’t specify to him that I would appreciate this, and it seems it didn’t occur to him that it even was an idea. So, that didn’t happen and it sucks. I spent most of the day crocheting by myself today, which is very much not fun or very enjoyable as a full day’s activity. Looks like tomorrow will be more of the same.

Just more of the trial by fire crap we’ve been getting the whole past year already. And, yes, it still sucks.

Oh, and, by the way, we still have rats running around in the attic.

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(Still forgot)

Snow day

Today was a snow day in Houston. We had a great time playing. But still no baby.

I had hoped to get an adorable photos of the baby resting on top of the snow. But it’s still inside of me, so this was the best we could do.

Also, the chickens were interesting to see in the snow today.

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Winter weather

And so the winter weather is upon us. Temperatures below freezing for three nights in a row, barely popping above freezing during the daytime, with snow expected tomorrow. We’ve already had tiny hail (which might actually be called sleet, but I’m not so sure) off and on tonight. But no snow yet. It’s been snowing outside the city a ways already – my brother sent a video of his ‘yard’ out on property, lovely snow falling everywhere. We shall see if it truly happens in town and if it stays on the ground at all.

Gos, please, keep us safe and well. Make this baby whole and safe and well, please. Keep our home powered and warm and functioning safely with water, please. And let this baby come join us safely and freely, please, and very soon. Please, have the midwife safely here when I birth the baby, too. Help my husband and me learn better how to love one another in ways that make the biggest difference for each other. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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(Still missed it)

Closer…

Are we almost there now? I realized today that I don’t even have to say “next week,” when people ask when the baby is due. The answer now is, “Saturday.” Less than a week away is the due date.

So much for two weeks early like the rest of my family. Thanks for the false hopes, guys. Well, ladies, I guess is the accurate term there. Haha

Anyway, it’s been rather crushing not having the baby’s arrive when I really wanted it to arrive. As with everything else, I am accepting God’s will and moving forward with His courage and trusting in Him.

It also has been physically miserable the past almost-week. Each day has been worse, too. Tonight, I was even feeling strains in places I hadn’t been feeling them. No clear consistency yet, though. The midwife said all signs are showing that my body is truly feeling up for this all. However, she also said that it needs to kick into gear before Monday night or wait until Wednesday.

“Why?” you ask. Because we have a massive freeze happening Monday-Tuesday, with snow to be expected. Houston isn’t exactly a snow place. I think we’ve had it, including when it didn’t even stick to the ground, a total of four times in my life. Maybe five. And that’s in almost 34 years. So, weather like we are expected to have Monday-Tuesday will not be good driving conditions for this city, and it will not be safe for folks to be out. Which includes our midwife driving all the way across town to our house. So, yeah… the hope is to be done before the bad weather. The back-up plan is to have things happen after the bad weather. And God’s plan will show itself in the coming days..

God, help us to deliver well in the next twelve hours or so, please. Make me and the baby and my husband well and safe, please. Thank you for all of this and all that we will learn and gain from this all. Thank you for my husband. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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(Still getting it wrong, by the way…)

Waiting

I started this baby blanket in middle school, when my mom taught me to crochet. I needed a project that was more than just a scarf (which I didn’t like because of the pattern/design of crochet stitches) or roses or a square, but wasn’t an entire granny blanket.

But it feels like the minute I finish this blanket, contractions will start and the baby will come out. Which is ironic. Because, if finishing the blanket is all it takes to have a baby, I had two decades to finish this blanket. Actually. Not that I wanted a baby in middle school, of course. But I could have finished this thing at any point in time in my adult life. I’ve always had in my home, wherever I’ve moved, aside from the one year in Japan. And yet I never touched it. Only once, I pulled it out and actually did a bit of stitching on it. I enjoyed that. But then I put the blanket away and left it for several more years. Now, here I am, nine months pregnant, seemingly unable to progress to the stage of labor. And I can just see the irony of finishing the blanket and then going right into labor. It would be a beautiful irony, to be sure, and I know God had a sense of humor.

Ugh.

God, help me to release this baby from my body, please. Grant us safety and easy and full health and holiness. Make us all well and keep us all safe, please. Thank you for this marriage and home and baby. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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To-dos

Maybe, now that the cleaners have come and the mildew in the tub is gone and the clothes are put away, the baby will come.

Please.

God, help us to have an easy and smooth labor and delivery. Make the baby and me and my husband healthy and well and whole, please, and keep us safe and together. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Dawdling

Dawdling really gets to me. If the plan is not to follow a schedule, it is absolutely no big deal, and I even encourage dawdling. However, when a schedule has been determined, it is a solid no for me. And it lands as incredibly disrespectful, for some reason. I can tolerate it when communication is kept, acknowledging at the first notice that timing has shifted. But, when nothing (or close to nothing) is communicated, and the schedule just isn’t met, with no acknowledgement of one’s having messed up the schedule due to fooling around (or whatever it was)… it’s like no one mattered enough to be informed that what they were told and were anticipating isn’t going to happen anymore.

It just sucks.

God, help us to heal, please. Grant us an easy, love-filled, natural birth in the next few days, please. In the next 22 hours would be awesome. Kay. Thanks. Grant us peace, please, and keep us safe and whole and well. Thank you for this home and this pregnancy and this baby and this marriage. Help us always to be our best selves, and help us to do it by our own wills. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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Due dates

Asking a pregnant woman’s due date is much the same as asking, “So, when did you have fertile sex?” Or, even, “When was your last menstruation?” In terms of the information they provide, at least.

Whichever question one asks, one still will know when to expect the baby to arrive and when the couple made the baby and when the woman’s last menstruation was.

And yet, though questions about the latter two pieces of information are deemed inappropriate, the due date question is completely acceptable societally. But a question about any of them would provide the same information.

Kind of weird to consider, right?

It is to me, anyway. Haha

Please, Lord, let me have this baby now. Keep us safe and make us well, please. In your name, I pray. Amen.

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(Caught it, at least…)