The fish isn’t mine.
We just live in the same house together.
Every day, at some point or other – some days, it is more than once, and sometimes for hours at a time – we see one another.
I say hi to the fish just about every time it is the first time I’ve seen him in the last few hours or so, and I feel a sort of acknowledgement come my way, as his own greeting to me.
We are comfortable housemates, and we watch out for one another.
He keeps his space clean, and I help him stay alive, and make sure his light gets turned off at night – too many people seem to think it is a good idea to turn on his light in the evening, and then leave it on the entire night… (I mean, when and how is he supposed to sleep???)
Anyway…, we are buddies of a sort.
Some nights, I walk into the main room without looking yet at the fish tank, but I can tell he knows I am there – I can feel his eyes on me.
And, sure enough, on such nights, when I turn around and give my attention to the fish tank, the fish is there, facing directly toward me, wherever I am, his nose almost pressing against the glass.
It did not take me long to discover why he did this, of course.
Every single time, it is because he has not been fed.
It’s nice not having to check the log to know if he’s been fed or not – he helps me out that way.
And I help him out by feeding him.
He also is a great listener – he accepts me the way I am, and offers minimal judgment, always allowing me to be open and honest, wall-free about things.
And I can always know that he accepts me as I am, whether he cares about what I have to say or not.
And that is really nice.
Do you think he’s so especially good at this all, because he is part of so much meditation (he’s located in the main meditation and yoga room)?
Maybe…, just maybe… a meditative fish makes for a good friend…
Like the sharks from “Finding Nemo” declares, fish are friends, not food.
And this one is a good friend. 🙂
Now, the question is: How do we build more relationships like this with people?
That’s a good question well worth answering, I do believe…