(I imagine I have shared this here already, but it is on my mind yet again, and so I will share it again. 😛 )
Do you remember what it was like to make new friends as a little kid? Perhaps it was different by generation, but, in my generation, it was really simple:
“You wanna be friends?!”
And that was that – you’ve got a new friend, possibly even a best friend. Nowadays, as an adult, I feel as though people think I’m totally nuts and unfortunately childish whenever I present a similar conversation… I’m starting to realize that I don’t really care. Sure, I want the new friend, but perhaps we aren’t meant to be friends if the person is put off by my question of wanting to be friends. You know what I mean? Because asking just like little kids ask is natural to me; it’s part of being true to myself. I’m not being purposely childish and avoiding being an adult when I ask – I’m genuinely excited at the prospect, and hoping that the person will be just as excited as I am at having a new friend.
I also mean it, too, about being actual friends. Not just Facebook friends or any of that nonsense – actual friends who talk with one another and do things together and enjoy and explore life together; friends who help one another become the best version of themselves. A friend is someone who helps you be the best person you can be. A priest actually said that once to a group of us, and I’ve always remembered it. And that‘s the kind of friend I’m always looking for, asking for, and also wanting to be for others. My best friend and I are like that with one another, and it’s wonderful. However, we definitely don’t live near one another (try 4,811 miles apart, approximately), so it’s nice to have other people around, closer, who can be friends, too. 🙂
I’m not so sure why people seem so uninterested in that kind of relationship with me, though. Perhaps I scare them… I am a bit much to take in under certain circumstances, especially when it comes to my saying openly things that people often are not straight about. (Not like I’m vulgar and offensive, because I really don’t promote cursing or vulgarity at all… but I answer honestly when someone asks how I’m doing, or what I think of the food, or even how an outfit looks on someone… it just isn’t worth it to me to lie. I don’t want my friend to go out looking horrendous in some dress making her look fat and lumpy, do I? [No, I do not.] And I don’t have to be mean about saying it, but I do have to tell the truth. At least, I strive always to tell the truth, as well as to be appropriate with how I express it.) I don’t know… I guess the right people will show up in the right places at the right times. Maybe they’ll even ask me if I want to be friends with them, instead of the other way around.
Here’s to finding spectacular friends, y’all. 😀