Women just about everywhere hate them, yet single women just about everywhere with digital means of communication cannot escape them…
They are The Dick Pics.
Why do men seem to want to send them to us women?
After much contemplation and casual discussion, a girlfriend of mine and I hit something that made a lot of sense: Guys would love to receive the reciprocal from a woman, and so they somehow believe that 1)women will appreciate their offering theirs free of charge or request, and 2)it will be a way for them to receive the response photo from the women receiving their photo.
It makes sense.
Except for the fact that women don’t typically like the dick pics… like at all…., and they openly say so to the public.
Yet men keep doing it.
It is even illegal in some places now, to provide an unsolicited photo of one’s penis.
I have never received a dick pic, actually.
But I’m not on dating sites, for one thing.
And I also wouldn’t be interested in dating anyone who might consider a dick pic to be a possibility period, let alone a good idea.
So, while a small part of me feels like I am missing out by having not ever received one of these photos, a much greater part of me is grateful for not having to have that in my life.
If and when I have a partner in my life, I can see all the up-close and personal genitalia I want – until that time, no photos, please… and thank you.
Tonight, I could have remedied this small situation of minor FOMO*, as a distant friend of mine reached out, telling me that he was in the mood, and could he send me a photo?
That wasn’t the typical request regarding photos… usually they ask for a photo of us…, so, I asked what he meant, and he replied:
I’m in the mood
A long messaging conversation ensued, in the middle of which, I reached out to a close male friend of mine for guidance as to how to handle the situation.
Apparently, this guy just likes sharing himself with women who enjoy seeing him (specifically his genitalia) – he gets a rise out of it.
And he admits this openly and fully.
And, while I adamantly denied the dick pic request, I thanked him for his frankness and for his asking me for permission – the two are rare, and they were much appreciated.
He said he didn’t understand why a guy ever would send such a photo unsolicited and without permission, and was surprised at the idea that they nonetheless do it often.
Whatever the case, we ended up messaging about other things, once it was fully settled that I did not want what he had to offer to me tonight, and it was actually really, really cool.
I actually feel like we have more of a friendship now, because of it… and especially because of our openness and honesty with one another.
At any given moment, I could have gotten all offended.
But I didn’t… I have him space to be himself, and accepted his honesty… as I said to myself earlier, he was genuinely just asking for help.
Just because it was not a common request or one with which I was very comfortable did not mean that I needed to freak out or grow angry or grossed out with him.
It was rather refreshing, then, dealing with pure honesty in such a situation.
It was like the opposite of an affirmative yes, and in the best of ways… an affirmative no, in a way.
So, I still have no dick pic, and I am totally happy with that… totally…
And I am also grateful for the upfront honesty and no-nonsense of this guy tonight – it was awesome. 🙂
*For those who are not aware, it means Fear Of Missing Out.