This morning, I woke up in such comfort as I had not known in months. As I began to come to, though, confusion roused within me. When I finally discovered where and when and what I was, I pitifully crunched myself under the blankets, smashing my face into the mattress, and resisting the intense, despairing urge to cry.
Why all of this, just from waking today? My dreams. I cannot say how many times this has happened, but I do know that it is incredibly rare for me – when I awoke this morning, I initially believed that what had just been my dreams were, in fact, memories from actual events. They, of course, were only dreams.
On this occasion of dreaming, I was wandering around a warm, beautiful place (beautiful in the sense of the space, as opposed to scenery) with a friend of mine. His parents were in and out of the events, too. At one point, we were all participating in a fun effort to help a group play fabulous music (It was like a modern-day version of pumping the organ, but for the musical ensemble as one large unit in need of this pumping.). We all sighed happily from the effort when the music was finished, and walked separate ways from the band’s setup to relax after the sort of workout. My friend handed me a local coin, mentioning the nickname people have for it, and thus his reason for giving it to me. We both laughed as he passed it to me with a slight flourish-esque bow (think old-timey British servants presenting something to the master), and then he gave me a kiss on my forehead, rather casually.
I smiled, and even gave a small chuckle at the gesture, both via the sweet joke about the coin and comparing it to me and the loving kiss. We each briefly said something else, immediately after which, he casually lifted my chin and gave me a full, brief, and, again, casual kiss, this time on the lips. I was surprised, though not opposed, and even had willingly accepted/participated in the act. We both turned to resume whatever it was we were doing before these two kisses, but glanced back at one another as his eyes went wide and he made a face of “Uh-oh.”
- He’s not one for public displays of affection. 2. His parents were nearby.
Naturally, his mother, though across the room, had noticed, as we could tell by her loud and calmly delighted, “Aaaaaaaaah, whaaaat is thaat, exactly, hmmm?” And his dad expressed a chuckled agreement to the question.
I replied quickly and with honesty and ease, “Oh, we don’t even know, really. He can’t seem to make up his mind about it, and I’m too lazy to do anything about it.”
And we were all, in a semi-silly way, happy and together and lovingly content. My friend slipped his arm around my waist, and pulled me into a big sideways hug as I said the words to his mother, and everyone had a nice laugh or chuckle of true and easy contentment.
And that was it, really.
And it was all so believable, because of the experience of being there. It was real joy and caring for one another (all of us) and ease – life was easy with all of us together, where we were, just like it is when I am with family and my closest friend (a different friend from this one). So, when I awoke this morning, I was going from perfection (you know, the goofy ‘life is perfectly imperfect’ kind of perfection) and the bliss that followed after such an experience, to a cold (literally) realization that my circumstances are actually the opposite from how it felt they were…
How’s that for a start to a Friday, huh? Though, I do recall how our dreams help us handle all sorts of psychological struggles, it kind of makes me even sadder. How bad off am I right now that my sub-conscience decided I needed that kind of and that specific dream? Kind of made me hope for it to have been an accident that I’d had such a dream, as opposed to intentional in any way.
But, after the rough day that has been today, I’d be quite happy to continue these dreams tonight. Even though they have a near zero percent chance of coming true, I’ll be able at least to go back to sleep in the morning, free and at ease, because it will be Saturday, and one with no specific daytime plans but to sleep in. And everything feels better when you get to sleep in. 🙂