I want it all to work out beautifully, but along the lines of my intentions… we shall see what life has in store, however.
Likely, I will discover something much better and rather different than I had ever expected, and for many, many reasons.
After all, is that not how much of life tends to work in the first place?
I’ve been struggling the past ten days, give or take a few on either side.
Getting myself to exercise, even to get out of the house and be specifically outdoors has been tough.
Part of me wonders if something is off in my hormones and diet, but most of me believes that I simply have gotten myself into a mental slough…
This whole “What’s Next” thing has really been getting to me, and I feel like I need a bit of a break from being where I am and have been, both mentally and physically.
The things I have been doing have ended or are ending, and I want a quick vacation to reset, and then to come back and take on all the new stuff full-force(!).
I got a small taste of what it feels I most need last Friday…, and it was amazing, but it also reinforced my draw to taking that real retreat from this daily circumstance in which I presently find myself (and have found myself for a very long while).
I was supposed to do a somewhat quick road trip with my mom, and go visit my brother in Wisconsin, because my mom has wanted to take a road trip with me in her new car for the past three years (though, I only just this year learned of this intention of hers).
Every time I’ve asked to arrange everything with my brother and her, she tells me her schedule won’t allow it.
So, I aimed for a shorter trip to visit my cousin in Oklahoma.
It was to be during the workweek, so that I could still work remotely, and we wouldn’t interrupt my cousin’s weekend time with her husband, who had to be at work during the workweek.
But then, suddenly, days before we are about to go, my mom declares that she can’t take of time during the week like that – it must be a weekend…., even though she had already agreed, before I had even reached out to my cousin about visiting.
And then, we were going to go to Galveston for an overnight stay…, but my mom, yet again, decided she actually couldn’t take off when she said she could from work, so we would have to do it on a weekend… when everyone else is there…, which neither of us was interested in doing.
And now, two and a half road trips having been canceled, I’m about ready to burst… I already had my summer plans of spending six weeks in Italy and England (to work on my thesis and visit my best friend and her soon-to-be baby) canceled…, I don’t know how much more of being stuck here I can take.
If it goes much longer, we risk my getting a job elsewhere and just moving away, clear as day…
I was doing so well, back when I had things I was looking forward to doing…, and now, I’m what feels like such an oppressive state, I feel it harder to breathe, and I can’t even seem to get myself to exercise… which only adds to my misery, making me feel like I have a huge fat-girl complex, and all I seem to want to do is eat cookie dough and cry and sleep all day to avoid the world…
And it isn’t all day that I feel this way, but it is the underlying tone to almost every moment, and so is always with me.
I know that I’ll be okay at some point, but I’m really not okay right now, and it has kept regressing, little by little, lately… that’s why I couldn’t stand people asking how I was doing weeks ago… I wasn’t okay, but I didn’t want to talk about it with them.
And I still don’t.
But I’m still not okay.
However, I am finally starting to see clearly what all is in the way for me, and I know I can and will start clearing and cleaning it all up in the very near future.
For now, though, I am simply acknowledging it and letting it be.
I am pissed off and I want a retreat from all of this, and I keep being promised one, and then having it pulled away from me.
And it all comes down to money… if I had more of it, this wouldn’t be an issue right now.
But I won’t get into that.